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With three key pillars at the national level, we provide services and supports to all people, to enable sustainable respectful relationships. Show
Broadly, Relationships Australia advocates and promotes the importance of respectful relationships with respect to positive individual mental health outcomes and general community outcomes. Our research is relevant and purposeful, and further enables us to provide our ongoing trusted services and supports.
Healthy relationships with your partner and family members can enhance your life and make everyone feel good about themselves. They don’t just happen though; healthy relationships take time to build and need work to keep them healthy. The more positive effort you put into a relationship, the healthier it should be. What are the signs of a healthy relationship?People in healthy relationships love and support each other. They help each other practically as well as emotionally. They are there for each other in the good times and the bad times. Healthy relationships are commonly based on:
What are the benefits of healthy relationships?People who have healthy relationships are more likely to feel happier and satisfied with their lives. They are less likely to have physical and mental health problems. Healthy relationships can:
Communication in a healthy relationshipPeople who are in a healthy relationship talk to each other regularly and listen to each other too. Misunderstandings can happen, and that can lead to people being upset, hurt or confused. It is best to be clear about what you want to say. Making a real effort to understand what the other person is saying also helps. Double checking that you have understood correctly can avoid misunderstandings. Just because you love each other doesn’t mean you will be able to communicate well or know what the other is thinking. To encourage more open communication in your relationship:
Communication is not just talking; non-verbal communication — your posture, tone of voice, facial expressions — can tell the other person how you feel. Non-verbal communication can even undermine what you’re saying if your behaviour doesn’t match your words. How can I maintain healthy relationships?Building healthy relationships with partners, friends and family is good for you. It improves your mood, your mental health and your wellbeing. Maintaining them is important. It takes time and commitment. No relationship is perfect, but it is important that it brings you more happiness than stress. Here are some tips for a healthy relationship. Be clear about what you wantAssertive communication helps make your point more clearly than passive or aggressive communication. It means you make your point clearly and honestly, while respecting the other person's point of view. Try using ‘I’ statements instead of accusatory ‘you’ statements. For example, say "I really hate it when you don't clean up the dishes" rather than "You never help me in the kitchen". Say sorry when you’re wrongThis is really important as it helps heal relationship breakdowns that inevitably occur. Be affectionate and show appreciationRelationships can become routine after a while. Make special time together and continue to show your affection. Even just snuggling on the couch after work helps show intimacy. Make the relationship a priorityIt can be hard to balance relationships, work, family and friends. You can help establish a work-life balance by setting limits at work and learning to say no – this will ensure you make time for your relationship. Develop shared interestsFinding hobbies you both enjoy allows you to spend time together. This could be as simple as doing a night class together or taking up a new sport. Work on feeling good about yourselfFeeling good about yourself allows you to give the best to your relationships. Taking time to do what you enjoy can help. Healthy friendships maintain your happiness and self-esteem, so it is important that you stay in touch with your friends when you are in a relationship. One of the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship is when you quit activities you used to enjoy because of your partner. Find solutions that work for both of youConflict is a part of any relationship. It is essential that you both respect and accept your differences and similarities. Finding solutions that work for both of you will probably require compromise at different times. Make plans for the futureBy making plans for the future together, you both show you are in the relationship for the long term. Family timeFinding time together as a family can be difficult, but there are many benefits to regularly sharing family meals. Even one family meal a week gives everyone a chance to catch up, connect and communicate with each other. Having relationship issues?It is normal to have ups and downs in a relationship. It is also normal to have different opinions. Relationships, and people, change over time. Your relationship is not healthy if one person has more power than another, or if that person is abusive or violent. When a relationship endsThe end of a relationship can be a very painful time. It may take 2 or 3 years for people whose long-term relationship has ended to recover and to put their lives together again. Some people develop serious health and emotional problems during this time. Resources and supportIf you would like to talk to someone, here are some organisations that can help:
Last reviewed: October 2021
Quality Area 6 focuses on supportive, respectful relationships with families which are fundamental to achieving quality outcomes for children. Community partnerships that are based on active communication, consultation and collaboration also contribute to children’s inclusion, learning and wellbeing. Families are the primary influence in their children’s lives; they often have strong beliefs and values regarding the education and care of their children. When families and services collaborate and build respectful relationships, children have the opportunity to develop a positive sense of self and experience respectful relationships. Each standard and element is represented by outcomes that contribute to the standard being achieved within the service. The following is a list of outcomes under each element within QA6, that can help services identify if they are achieving Quality Area 6. It also includes documentation to support each element. This list can be used as a guide for Self-Assessment purposes and the development of the Quality Improvement Plan. 6.1 – Respectful relationships with families are developed and maintained and families are supported in their parenting role.6.1.1 - Families are supported from enrolment to be involved in the service and contribute to service decisions. This can be achieved by: • prospective families being, invited and encouraged to visit and become familiar with the service before their child starts• families encouraged to talk with service staff about the values and expectations they hold in relation to their child’s time at the service before, during and after the enrolment process• families encouraged to share information about other child-related services accessed by the family• families being encouraged to stay with their child for as long as they choose during the settling-in period and on an ongoing basis• families contacting the service, and in particular, their child’s educator/s during the day if they wish• educators assisting families to develop and maintain a routine for saying goodbye to their child• each child being offered comfort and reassurance in a way that is suited to the child during separation from their family • educators sharing honest information with families about how their child is settling into the service Documentation to support this includes: • the service’s enrolment and orientation procedures and documentation• evidence that families seeking a place at the service are provided with easy to read information about how the service operates and what it can provide (including information about inclusion and learning) • assist families to access service policies and procedures 6.1.2 – The expertise, culture, values and beliefs of families are respected and families share in decision making about their child’s learning and wellbeing. This can be achieved by: • information being exchanged between families and educators at arrival and departure times• educators and families discussing children’s individual requirements and play preferences sensitively, respectfully and confidentially• educators demonstrating a non-judgmental understanding of each child, and each child’s family and community context• educators sharing with families, some of the interactions they have had with children, children’s successes and achievements• families, being informed promptly and sensitively of any incidents affecting their child• families talking about the values and expectations they hold in relation to their child’s wellbeing and learning• families sharing their knowledge, skills and expertise as well as aspects of their family life and culture • families contributing to the documentation of their child’s learning and goal-setting Documentation to support this include: • information from the family about each child’s background, experiences, preferences and home routines is updated, recorded in the child’s documentation and used to support curriculum decision-making• families are given opportunities to provide feedback about their child’s experiences, make suggestions about service routines, transitions and activities, contribute to curriculum decision-making and the documentation of children’s learning • families’ knowledge of their children is incorporated into plans for children’s experiences and learning 6.1.3 - Current information is available to families about the service and relevant community services and resources to support parenting and family wellbeing. This can be achieved by: • educators and families sharing information about, the service’s operations, parenting roles and relevant support services and resources, community services Documentation to support this includes: • newsletters, communication books or other methods of communication with Families• information about the service’s philosophy, operation, policies and procedures being available in areas of the service regularly accessed by families, in service documentation provided to them on noticeboards, charts or posters in areas regularly used by families and/or through appropriate media• information about community services and resources available in areas of the service regularly used by families but where they can be accessed privately• service documentation such as the family handbook• easy-to-read information about the service in the languages used at the service and in the local community • evidence that policy changes are explained in detail and communicated to families prior to implementation 6.2 - Collaborative partnerships enhance children’s inclusion, learning and wellbeing.6.2.1 - Continuity of learning and transitions for each child are supported by sharing information and clarifying responsibilities. This can be achieved by: • children experiencing positive transitions within the service, between services and between the service, home, preschool/kindergarten and/or school Documentation to support this includes: • examples of summaries of the child’s progress towards the learning outcomes when transitioning between different age settings• examples of plans and statements to assist children in making positive transitions from the service to formal schooling• written procedures for releasing children from the service and ensuring that they are released only to authorised nominees• records of children’s arrivals and departures, with the signature of the person responsible for verifying the accuracy of the record and the identity of the person collecting the child • evidence that in centre-based services, shifts are planned to maximize continuity of education and care for children 6.2.2 - Effective partnerships support children's access, inclusion and participation in the program. This can be achieved by: • children demonstrating a sense of belonging and comfort in the service environment• children demonstrating trust and confidence in educators and staff members• educators have adapted aspects of the environment, routines, transitions and staffing arrangements to facilitate the inclusion of all children Documents to support this includes: • the service seeks to build their capacity to respond to each child’s specific requirements• professional development that supports responsiveness to each child’s specific requirements and inclusive practices• service’s philosophy, policies and procedures demonstrate a commitment to access, inclusion and participation for every child and their family in the service• meetings and/or communication between the service, families, and other agencies or specialists working with individual children• where required, families are referred and supported to make contact with appropriate support services/agencies• with the family’s consent and when required, information about the child’s experiences and achievements in the service is appropriately shared with other support services/agencies• examples of individual support plans for children that are implemented within the daily program and/or Strategic Inclusion Plans that promote inclusive programs and practices• procedures for families or educators to request referrals for children• processes for making and accepting referrals from other services/agencies in the local community such as child protection agencies, early childhood intervention services, cultural support agencies, family support agencies, health professionals • images, books and resources that reflect children and adults, from a range of backgrounds, cultures and abilities, as active contributors to and participants in the community 6.2.3 - The service builds relationships and engages with its community. This can be achieved by: • an environment that reflects the lives of the children and families using the service and the cultural diversity of the broader community, including Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander communities• images, books and resources that provide a balanced view of contemporary Australians• all service staff responding positively to the differences in families’ home lives and lifestyle choices • the educational leader and educators planning and implementing experiences in the program to support children’s understanding of the community within which they live Documents to support this includes: • the service liaises with other children’s services, local businesses, schools, health and family support services and other organisations working with families and children in the local area• members of the local community are invited into the service to contribute to the program• children have opportunities to learn about and contribute to the community in which the service is located • planned experiences that involve incursions and/or children visiting parts of their community to extend knowledge gained Please note that this is to be used as a general guideline only. Please read the Guide To The NQS for more detailed information of what is required for each standard. |
